“Eh? You think your three points can cheer me up from a hell of a day?”
Well, I was going to write something more like Aye captain, thou art enlighten me or maybe something more poetic like that but then my last post (which is purely, sheerly and utterly awesome; somebody has to promote the blog after-all) got some good response.
I hope you didn’t Google-ed this post. Did you? Well even if you did, either way you are an awesome person since this shows, you do have an interest in cheering yourself up. And for the rest, I would say, you guys are not the ‘rest’, like the people who are paid in pennies to act as crowd, specifically in cheap soap dramas. I have seen people relating themselves to background-filler crowds. But you, dear reader, You are an important being because you have a perception, you have depth to understand that- Yes life is difficult but I have to find a way move on from that. See I am not doing any sort of consoling. I am just being your logical mirror. I am reflecting that you want to see yourself happy.
There is HUGE stock for definitions on happiness and on its theories.
Wiki says happiness is a fuzzy concept. (Ha! did not expected that.) If I ll tell you, you must not think about what others believe–You’ll say I don’t want to be self centered and if I say, You must feel happy in other people’s happiness–You’ll say, what am I, a blood bank? (I completely support blood donation, unless you just got tattooed.)
1. See, all you need is
You must not be like- “She is giggling at me, she must be making fun of me”
Look what I believe (I am not perfect, but I try) is that these important people whom you think are making fun of you are important because you think a lot about them. (What will she think? what will he feel?–To hell with them) Trust me they don’t feel or think SO MUCH and even if they do, they forget and SO SHOULD YOU.
I hope you are not nodding your head too. Because I am. OH MY GOD, THIS IS SO CONTAGIOUS. (I don’t speak like this usually…but yeah.)
Secondly, I know, “I don’t give a damn” attitude is pretty awesome in feels, too good at some point but you realize or not, you do get pinched by your moral schema. Let me give you my example. (I request you not to judge, its a bloody example.)
So I was in bus lurking around a seat where a lady mentioned that she is going to get off at the next stop. And I am happy, finally I’ll get to sit when all of a sudden, almost out of nowhere, a girl almost jump against me in front of the seat and start conversing with the lady to let her have the seat and you are standing their like what the–
These little things spoil your day right? And you judge people then and their “Die bitch”. But what I saw next diverted this anger on her to myself. As I finally managed to get a seat (though right next to her), I saw old ladies standing around and then I said to myself, I must offer seats to old people one day but I can’t–today. And next I see, she is getting up to offer her seat to them.
A part of me wished, she was getting off. But she wasn’t. She stood right their.
Please don’t think, I told you to become like her. Because I definitely like the way you are. Just remember, at some point of time who knows, she would have been at my place too. Nobody was born kind. (Don’t say they are because I have studied psychology of upbringing.)
Be yourself, Accept and let it go, learn. (I-don’t-care-attitude is fine only until you are not hurting someone, because that would cause you guilt and if guilt doesn’t effect you, Congratulations, you are on your way to hell. Seriously. Because psychologists researched, all criminals and psychopaths have one thing in common. And that is–Absence of guilt.)
Its not about planning parties. Please.
What if you did a mistake, let’s say, misplacing something of worth. And then, you decide to be extremely careful, you suddenly become organized, vigilant and satisfied, believing that the mistake taught you something at least. But THEN you commit the same mistake AGAIN. And you feel like-
And then you blame it on the fate. Pretty much the same game for everyone. (I think you’ll feel better now; defense mechanism; knowing that the bad luck is not targeting you.)
Now whatever happened, digest it with a broad perspective.
DO YOU SERIOUSLY GONNA REMEMBER WHAT YOU MISPLACED THAT THING WHEN YOU’LL BE AT YOUR DEATHBED?
Oh my I have just one regret, why I ironed my yellow dress wrong because I am taking it down to my bloody grave? Nope. Even Alexander the great couldn’t. (You gotta say, I write good blogs.)
According to psychology, we plan in order to feel safe. And when the plan goes down, we start to feel that we are losing control and that gives you anxiety attack, makes you feel you can’t breathe and then–You can’t tackle it since you are busy catching your breathe.
So we do one thing. We cancel the losing control thing. I mean when you disapprove of a plan, don’t you make a fresh one? Why can’t you do it right then?
You control the plans, they don’t control you.
Now when you spoiled your yellow dress and let’s say even your Plan B trousers, You can re-enhance casual-dresses. You can be more creative. You can act more CONTROL.
And when you lose a thing twice, you’ll realize something else is wrong with me. It is not organization, or carefulness in case we are referring to people. Its about process. To understand when you are more careful and when you are at the least.
Its just some
And even if they do not load, remember it is your good day-Refresh. And even if it doesn’t work after that. I’ll say. Huh you can find better bro. Don’t look up on Facebook though. That thing is becoming depressing.
Here it is FUNNY-eh-PICTARETHON.
Well. I did put the PICTURE on the blog.
I suck at Marathons. Yeah.
I was actually feeling low. Decided to cheer myself up. And I also google stuff like that—You know-“steps to cheer yourself up”.